Sandra’s Story: Hiding Shame through Performance and Hypervigilance (Part 1)
In our last episode, I shared some of the specific strategies we use to keep our shame and failure hidden. Now in today’s episode, my guest Sandra shares how shame had a way of causing her to perform and look perfect. As she grew up, she learned that being hypervigilant was the only way she would remain safe. But in the end, all these strategies left her lonely, anxious, depressed, and sure she was to blame.
Join me Sandra shares her story and be sure to subscribe so you can catch part two where she talks about how she realizes the trauma she was suppressing throughout her childhood.
What You’ll Learn
Why high-performers struggle to accept feedback most
That you’re not alone if you feel a big gap between who you are and who you want to be
Why we feel shame when trusted adults fail to normalize developmental experiences for young people
Examples of how you can unintentionally cause hurt to relationships if you choose to hide in shame
What hypervigilance is and how we use it to protect ourselves