The Relational Impact of Shame on Families
Regardless of how you were raised, one thing is for certain, there are no perfect families. Even those with "minimal baggage" still manage to leave relational wounds. Because we are all fallen, we are sinners, and as a result, we are all impacted by shame. In this episode, I’ll share some common examples of what it looks like for family members to engage in the “shame-contempt dance” -a topic which earned a whole chapter in my book.
I will also share how we can untangle ourselves from that exchange and communicate with kindness and boundaries. While we are not in control of how anyone in our family reacts to being hurt, we can practice naming our emotions and the effect a family member has on us. We can also commit to asking God to search our hearts for what we need to repent of and forgive.
In this episode you’ll learn:
Why we have to acknowledge both intentional and unintentional relational hurt in families
The danger of comparing your family to other families in your community
Why a s desire for a problem-free home is unrealistic and a form of idolatry
The reasons we care so deeply about how our family views us
Why being committed to forgiving quickly is so powerful