The Subtle Snare of People Pleasing
If you’ve developed a pattern of people-pleasing, it can feel impossible to break free of it, especially in our core relationships. It often begins when someone in authority communicates that their needs trump our needs. We become driven by the need to avoid conflict or deflect from the shame we feel about ourselves. But when we don’t look for other ways of relating, we can stunt our growth and deprive other people of the chance to grow.
I’ll share how God exposed the people-pleasing habits in my life and why learning practical ways to set boundaries transformed how I felt about myself and related to others. I’ll unpack the roles of the “drama triangle” and how you can discover the signs of the roles you play in this dynamic and how to trade them in for healthier ways of relating.
What You’ll Learn:
Why it’s so tricky to distinguish between a need and a desire
Why it’s unhealthy to believe it’s our job to stop anyone from experiencing negative emotions
How people pleasing can feel so rewarding at times
Evidence for why tolerating abuse is not an expression of love
Why we can feel stuck believing we have no choices