Attempts to Cover Shame with a Perfect Image: Mary’s Story (Part 1)
If you have become someone who is really well-versed in performing, many times it’s because early on, we learned to do it as a means of survival. It’s one way we can control the chaos-or at least be sure we don’t add to it.
In this episode, my guest Mary is sharing how maintaining an image of perfection in childhood was a practice that followed her into marriage and parenting. And as hard as she tried, for many years, she was not able to break the cycles of shame that broke her. Learn how an unexpected hardship taught her to release her need to appear put together and embrace an ability to love without conditions.
What You’ll Learn:
The first time Mary can remember experiencing shame
How Mary became the referee in her parents’ marriage at a young age
A child’s experience of the process of escaping an abuser
Why she still felt the need to control when she married a healthy man
Why even 180 degrees from sick is still sick